“The Blueprint to Attracting Private Money for Real Estate | Jay Conner Interview (2025)"
One of the biggest challenges for real estate investors—new and seasoned alike—is securing funding for their deals. Many hopeful investors are turned away by banks, discouraged by strict credit requirements, or simply overwhelmed by the idea that hefty amounts of capital are needed to get started. But what if you could bypass the hoops, skip the hard money lenders, and line up the funds you need from regular people in your own community?
That’s exactly what Jay Conner, known as the “Private Money Authority,” has been doing since 2009. In his conversation with Wesley Paul on the Respect My Blueprint podcast, Jay laid out a practical and proven roadmap for leveraging private money—and why mindset is the key to unlocking this powerful strategy.
Flip the Script on Funding Jay’s journey began in a small town in North Carolina, with a target market of only about 40,000 people. Despite this “small pond,” Jay has managed to dominate his market, buying and flipping over 500 houses and building an average profit per deal of $86,000.
He attributes much of his success to a simple but profound shift: instead of chasing after loans or groveling at the feet of the banks, he decided he would “offer a mortgage rather than ask for one.” In other words, Jay stopped asking for money and started offering people the opportunity to invest in his deals. By repositioning himself as a teacher, not a beggar, the dynamic shifted—and so did his results.
Teaching, Not Pitching One of Jay’s golden rules is never to ask for money or pitch a deal directly. Instead, he leads with education. He explains to people in his network—church members, acquaintances, friends—what private lending is, how it works, and what protections and returns they can expect.
The trust inherent in these relationships is vital. “There’s a five-letter word that’s crucial in this business—trust,” Jay says. People are much more willing to move forward if they understand what they’re getting into and if they trust you to guide them.
Who Can Be a Private Money Lender? Jay’s experience has proven that just about anyone can be a private lender. From retired teachers and law enforcement officers to minor children who inherited money, private lending isn’t limited to the wealthy elite. If someone has either liquid capital or unused retirement funds, they can become a lender.
Timestamps: 00:01 Blueprint: Real Estate Funding Secrets 04:27 Dominating Real Estate in Small Town 09:03 Wholesaler Success: Build Cash Buyers List 12:45 Private Lending Through Trust Building 14:40 Teaching Private Lending Basics 20:53 High Returns Investment Referral 22:53 Funding Success: The Good News Call 25:59 "Wesley Trusts Me with Deal" 28:47 Ordinary People as Private Lenders 32:17 Understanding Private Real Estate Financing 36:39 Raise Private Money Fast Guide 39:50 Leveraging Private Lending for Deals 44:21 Mindset and Education Key 46:02 Jay's Investment Guidance & Resources
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What is Private Money? Real Estate Investing with Jay Conner
Jay Conner is a proven real estate investment leader. Without using his own money or credit, Jay maximizes creative methods to buy and sell properties with profits averaging $86,000 per deal.
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